
I'm glad you're here! If you know me, you know I'm a Texas girl born & raised-- in the 70's when the music was great, the hair was big, the clothes were funky and the days were simple. I LOVE the sun and all things outdoors; biking, skiing, walks with Sadie (my Goldendoodle-- more about her later)... on a beach or in the mountains. Tacos, chips & salsa, diet coke and sweet time spent on the Front Porch is Texas heaven to me. When I'm outdoors my heart is connected with God. His spirit feels so alive in nature and that's what my heart longs for daily. I've done a lot of life on my Front Porch and have always said, "if that Front Porch could talk, oh the stories it would tell". Stories that are a mix of sweet and salty and alot of messy but most are how Jesus met me there everyday working miracles in and around me that I couldn't see. Come sit with me on the Front Porch as I share my story of how God took all the pieces of this messy broken heart and made beauty out of ashes. (More about me and a snip-it of my story)
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Terri Kelley
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PAST ABORTION?
PAST ABORTION?
ABOUT TERRI
ABOUT TERRI
ABOUT TERRI
ABOUT TERRI
TERRI KELLEY'S BIO...
To every girl who struggles with the heavy burden of a secret past abortion and carries guilt and shame of a past abortion and carries the heavy burden of this secret in her broken heart, my story is for you! You are not alone.
To every girl who struggles with the heavy burden of a secret past abortion and carries guilt and shame of a past abortion and carries the heavy burden of this secret in her broken heart, my story is for you! You are not alone.
For every girl who found herself alone and afraid in an unexpected pregnancy and has since carried the heavy burden of a secret abortion... my story is for you! You are not alone. You are loved.
For every girl who found herself alone and afraid in an unexpected pregnancy and has since carried the heavy burden of a secret abortion... my story is for you! You are not alone. You are loved.
I'm a Texas Girl
I'm a Texas Girl
A snippit of my story...

Beauty For Ashes
For every girl who has been deeply wounded by abuse or abortion and carries the pain of this secret deep inside her soul, my story is for you. You are not alone. You are loved!
Terri Kelley
I don’t ever remember a time of not knowing God. From my earliest memory as a child, I loved Him and felt He loved me -- and although I would spend most of my life questioning, challenging, and feeling unworthy of this love, it would be what ultimately saved me down a very long and broken road. I now understand that... I was chosen --- I am His --- and for that, I am so very grateful.
Fear not, for I have redeemed you --- I have called you by name,
YOU ARE MINE.
Isaiah 43:1
If given a choice, my life is not the one I would choose but it is the one God chose for me to live, perhaps for such a time as this. If you are like me, mistakes and heartache can often feel like many years of wasted time, but I believe God loves redeeming the hearts of his broken people and multiplying the lost years back to us with great purpose.
Like many young girls, I often dreamed of someday falling in love and marrying a man that loved God just as much as I did. My dad was a youth minister in our church so our lives revolved around church activities and a bunch of teenagers that I loved --- so much that I wanted to marry a youth minister and someday have that same life.
From an early age, my heart wanted to please God so I have often asked Him why He would allow my young life to become littered and confused with the debris of sexual abuse. I was about 8 years old and not fully aware of what was happening to me or why, but I understood the words said and the threats made by my abusers, so in fear I kept quiet. I often wondered if anyone could see what was happening to me as the shame began to wear heavy on my small body me like a heavy coat. Did God see me? Was He angry with me? The secrets I carried inside left me confused about God and questioning if I had done something wrong or if something was wrong with me.
Years later our family would move and settle in a small central Texas town where I would become a teenager and start Jr. High School. It was the early 70s and there was a lot of noise and unrest in our country. It was a time of make love---not war, peace--love--rock & roll, and women fighting for equal rights and sexual liberation... all of which had the church's attention with great concern. My family was part of an ultra-conservative church that leaned hard into a woman's place in the world and that sexual sin would send you to hell. Girls were taught that sex before marriage would mark them impure and sluts, and that no Christian boy would want to marry that girl. I soon discovered that Christian boys wanted sex just as much as non--Christian boys which left me wondering if the same rules applied to them as they did to us girls. And then there were the married men who preyed on young girls and adults who kept quiet. As a teen, church was confusing and unsafe, and created fears and doubts that I would ever be good enough to make it through the pearly gates.
I was learning that a girl had no voice, it was a man’s world,
and the church left no room for mistakes.
It was the summer of ’77 just before my senior year of high school and my friends and I were excited about our upcoming senior year together and our plans after graduation. I had been planning to go to Abilene Christian College (University) since the first time I stepped foot on the campus in the 60s. I dreamed I would meet my future husband there, get married, and have a big family. I had big hopes and dreams but all of them would fall apart this summer as I was faced with a crisis that would turn my life upside down and send me spiraling down a path of destruction for many years.
The phone call came that summer day with the nurse on the other end telling me she had my test results back and it was positive. I was pregnant. I don't remember much about the minutes, hours, or days that followed the call, but I do remember the panic and overwhelming fear I felt as I was left to deal with a pregnancy at 17 years old and the painful circumstances that landed me there. Several months earlier, I began dating a guy that was known to be the bad boy in school. Initially, he was attentive and protective which made me feel loved and seen but slowly his behavior changed and became controlling, manipulative, and abusive, and I found myself always trying to prove that I was loyal and good enough for him. His desire to have sex kept me on an emotional rollercoaster as I tried to convince him that I loved him but wanted to honor my purity vow. Over time my no(s) became personal rejections and in one night everything would change when my “no” was not enough.
I was now pregnant, alone, and paralyzed in fear as I thought about the potential fallout from church, school, and home... none of them feeling like a safe place to go for help. I felt as if I was staring down a road of shame and rejection from everyone I knew, no matter how I ended up here. I informed my boyfriend that I was pregnant but he did not want the fall-out or responsibility of a child so he gave me money and told me to get rid of the problem.
I was alone and afraid in my secret with nowhere safe to go and
everything to lose, so I went looking for a way out.
A friend suggested a local clinic so I scheduled an appointment with the OB-GYN to talk about my options. The doctor said I had two choices… have a baby or terminate the pregnancy quickly as it was now only a blob of tissue. I knew little about abortion and there were no sonograms available to us, so I trusted the doctor, paid the money, and walked into the clinic to terminate. Memories of that day are scattered but the intense feelings I experienced still fall on me today. I was terrified and sad as I lay on a cold table with tears rolling off the sides of my face knowing my "someday" baby would never be. A part of my heart was being ripped away and I felt powerless to do anything about it. Then the room became quiet and I knew my blob of tissue was gone. In its place stood grief and darkness. I walked out of the clinic that day hoping for relief but instead felt heartbroken and somehow knew my life would never be the same.
I would grieve alone and bury the secret of my abortion deep inside,
along with all the other secrets I carried.
I married the boyfriend after graduation in hope of redeeming the sin of my abortion and would justify all the physical beatings I took as my deserved punishment. Less than a year into the marriage I became pregnant and after a beating to my belly, I packed up and moved far away determined to put the pieces of my life back together again.
It was just me and my baby girl, a new life, a new town, and a new job that I loved but it would not be long before I was drowning financially and would hit rock bottom. My baby was sick from the moment she was born which often left us with no childcare, missed work, no paychecks, lost jobs, no insurance, and bills that I could not afford. After having my car repossessed, I became vulnerable and desperate for help... that help would come from a man who I believed was kind and generous but would soon turn abusive and identical to the one I had just run away from. After finding out I was pregnant, he gave me the option to have an abortion or he would walk away and leave us. Unable to support the baby I already had, I felt no choice but to go with him to the abortion clinic. He walked me in, paid at the front desk, then left as I was processed, put in a room, and asked to lay down on a familiar cold table. The table would trigger memories of my first abortion as the same tears rolled down the sides of my face, puddling onto the table. I looked up into the lights and asked myself over and over how I could have ended up here again. After it was over, I lay alone in the dark silent room sobbing and wishing I could disappear with the baby I felt I could not survive with. Truth is I would not survive well without this child but would grieve and disconnect from the many dreams I once had. I walked out the front door numb stuffing another shame secret down deep inside... never to talk about it again.
When the secrets took hold of my soul, they had the power to influence every thought, every decision, every relationship, and all self-worth.
Somewhere along the way, I gave up crying out to God. I was convinced He did not see me or want anything to do with a girl like me. The love I once felt He had for me was gone and I believed I was unlovable and going to hell. My heart would become isolated, protective, and live in exile only to survive. But something inside me still longed for redemption and the fairytale, so I worked hard to build the exterior of a strong independent woman that no one would ever see weak or vulnerable again.
Years later I would marry, believing this would be my fairytale ending... until it wasn’t. After 25 years of marriage, we would divorce leaving my heart again in a shattered mess. I was now angry and yelling at God... "why?" I had become tired of the fight for survival --- for love --- for belonging. I stood at the edge of a cliff with no fight left inside of me.
It was at that edge that a vision appeared with a timeline detailing every traumatic event I had been through in my life. I watched closely and saw God standing next to me in every painful moment and how He had never left but had stayed right next to me through it all. As the timeline faded, God asked if I was willing to surrender and trust Him with my heart and go on a journey with Him . I was unsure what that meant but was tired and desperate for answers so I agreed to go.
The journey was long and difficult as God took me into the dark and broken places of my soul... slowly revealing all the secrets of my past and the weight I had been carrying since childhood. He opened my eyes to see the devastation it did to my heart and the grief that had rooted itself deep in my soul. There lay my sadness, my shame, my death. He was there to catch every tear that fell from my face and pick me up each time I felt I could not get off the floor. Then He introduced me to Jesus... and that changed everything!
Do you believe in miracles?? Oh, I do. God has been so good to open my eyes to see and believe that He is still doing miracles today. I have no doubts because... I was one way and now I am completely different and what happened in between was Jesus. Here is an account of the final miracle Jesus did in my healing journey that changed my life forever and set me free.
For the Love of Josiah & Deborah...
I woke up one morning feeling the weight of so much loss in my life. As tears streamed down my face, I begin to hear children laughing and playing and thought it must be coming from outside until a bright light showed up in my room with Jesus standing between two children I had never seen before. Their faces were bright and happy and they smiled at me as if they knew me. I was captivated as I watched them and suddenly I knew these were my two babies. I had never allowed myself to see or think of them as living children. I had not given them an identity but instead had kept them in the dark secret place buried deep inside my soul. But Jesus showed me that they were real and fully alive and happy in heaven with Him. He introduced them to me by the names He had given them— Josiah and Deborah --- not names I would have given them but names that would act as a forever reminder of this day and the gift of a beautiful miracle He chose to give me. My heart exploded as He brought Josiah and Deborah out of the darkness and into the light. He told me I was forgiven and loved and that someday heaven would reunite all of us and give us an eternity together. I could not move or take my eyes off of them. I wanted to stay right here in this moment, loving on them with smiles and happy tears. But the vision began to fade and my heart ached to see them go but the ache was immediately replaced with a peace I had never felt before. What a gift Jesus just had given me... all for the girl who believed she was unworthy and going to hell! I went to my knees thanking Him and it would be here that the chains which had me bound for so long fell and hit the ground. I heard the thud and felt the floor move as they hit. I was released from the sin of my past. I was free!
I now know the full love of Jesus, the cross, and that the blood was meant for a girl, especially like me.
"El Roi" - The "God who sees" me.
Beloved, as God saw me in all my mess, He sees you too! He sees your broken heart and the pain suffered from the trauma of abortion, abuse, neglect, divorce, loss, abandonment, etc... It breaks his heart too. But He wants you healed and set free. He wants your heart back and to allow Him to write a beautiful new ending to your story.
“He heals the wounds of every shattered heart.” Psalm 147:3
If you have experienced the pain and regret of abortion, I hope you will find a safe place to share your story and begin a healing process that brings freedom and peace. YOU deserve it. I would be honored to hear your story and give you that safe place to land. You can contact me directly and privately at Terri@FrontPorchGirl.com.